The Sibling Support program is the first of its kind, acknowledging that sibling’s are often invisible to alcohol and drug support services for families. Sibling Support has been developed to specifically address the needs of ‘siblings’ rather than the ‘families’. Recognizing the advances in technology and the new ways services are providing health care to their clients i.e. via the internet, Sibling Support has developed all of its services so that they are accessible online.
Sibling Support aims to address the mental health and wellbeing of all siblings affected by addiction in the family by providing them with a wide range of interactive online support, including fact sheets, stories, emails, videos and Facebook.
Toolkit Module 3
Sibling Support Stories
Live Goes On
Written By Anonymous
I am 40 years old, something my brother never achieved, his addiction got the better of him and he died at 33. For as long as I can remember, my brother had issues with drugs and mental health. I remember him starting with cannabis at 13, I was 11. He said it helped him clear his head. I later learnt, this was because he was hearing voices. I can honestly say, I have no real memories of my brother before drugs. I seem to only recall all the heartache and pain that he caused the family. He almost killed our father one night because he wanted to take my dad’s gun to settle a score. I think this night was a huge wake up call for my parents, who had been enabling his lifestyle by bailing him out of trouble or giving him money. They had even had their home searched by the police, not a good thing in a small country town. At this point my folks said enough, your own your own. We can’t help you anymore. I was forever watching from the outside, not ca using any issues, as my parents had enough to deal with. At times I felt like I went unnoticed. I’m sure this was not the case, but for a younger sibling that’s how it feels. Parents are so busy with your older brother, you just don’t get noticed. My brother had period where he functioned well, held down a job, worked hard, but the drugs always got the better of him and he would return home, no work, no belongings(they were either sold or left behind). Unfortunately, he didn’t stop with just cannabis; he went onto ecstasy, heroin, prescription drugs and anything else he could get hold of. When my brother died from a heroin overdose at 33, I was angry at him for leaving, leaving me to support our parents alone, angry because I no longer had a brother to share things with. Its hard, as I have no other siblings who have lived this journey with me, and my parent don’t talk about him. But I also should thank my brother, as I am now an A&D worker because of him, trying to help people beat their demons and to give families back their brother, sister, mother or father.
Sister To Sister
Written By Anonymous
My sister and i are very close in age. 8 days from a yr apart. We have been apart for 5 yrs and have just moved close to each other. I worry about her constantly. She has developed a addiction for shooting meth. What’s worse is my 2 yr old niece is caught in the middle. I have tried to talk to her and share my experiences with my alcohol addiction which thankfully i am managing. Through the jail time, rehab and halfway house i overcame my denial and sobered up, but not without some heart wrenching consequences. I lost but my children because of my addiction and I’m worried my little sister is about to do the same either from the state or my niece getting hold of a dirty needle. Which is very much possible considering how filthy the house is. My niece also stays in a dirty diaper and dirty closes. I use to go over and clean for her and bath my niece. But my mother says i need to stop that I’m enabling her. I just for worry for my niece so much. I also feel like a hypocrite because of my past but i don’t want my sister to have lose her baby because her disease. Feeling hopeless.
I Miss Him
Written By Anonymous
So I’m 13 years old and I have an 18 year old brother with a drug addiction. It is the worst thing a younger sibling will ever have to go through, in my eyes. I try to cope with it but it’s so hard. I want to talk to my parents about it but I don’t want to worry them and I don’t want them to think that all this is their fault. They seem to think that, but of course it isn’t!! My best friend and her family know all about this and they are very supportive but I don’t really want to drag them into it too much. He became addicted about 2 years ago and the first ever incident was the night before we went on holiday. He was out and my parents and I had gone out for a Chinese. We then picked him up from his friends and went home. When we got home, my mum went to go and lock her very precious jewelry away (like she normally does before we go on holiday) and found that most of it had gone! He had sold it all…but obviously he wasn’t going to admit it. My mum cried her heart out, all night. This was the hardest thing to deal with that night, seeing my own mum cry that hard.
Soon after this we found out about his addiction and lots of things started going missing. They still do so we have to put everything precious and valuable under lock and key every time we leave the house. IT’S HORRIBLE! He also likes to lie a lot and thinks that we’re stupid enough to believe all the lies he tells. He went for a job interview the other day and the interviewer asked him how he had got there and he said ‘Oh, I just walked, it’s not that far’ when the man had clearly seen him get out of my dad’s car. Talking of jobs, he can’t seem to hold down a job for longer than 3 months. He’s had plenty of jobs so far and he hasn’t held a single one down for longer than 3 months. It’s ridiculous! Also he won’t pay my parents a single scrap of money, when he is earning money, to help pay for the bills and the food (because he’s 18 so he’s old enough to have to pay my parents)
There is also so much arguing in my house and I’m scared that I won’t get through this without going into a state of depression. He makes my mum cry all the time because he never thinks of anyone else but himself and likes a good argument. It’s the stealing that really hurts though…I can’t even trust my own brother! How nice is that? If I’m honest, he doesn’t even feel like my own brother anymore…I miss him, we used to be really close :'(
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